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Post by nicolehunt » Sun Mar 22, 2009 1:34 am

1. Do you enjoy the military life?
2. Is it realistic to think that i could get hired at naval hospitals if we were to get married? like as a contracted worker?
3. Is it hard raising a family with the military lifestyle? like do your kids get sad when they have to move and leave their friends? Do you??
4. It is my dream to become a nurse anesthetist. is it foolish to think that i could go back to school if we move all the time?

I agree with the above. Children are a lot more resilient than we give them credit for - and a lot of their attitudes come from the way their parents have accepted the situation. If you bash the Navy in front of them and cry a lot when you're moving and such, they'll take the same attitude. If you keep a happy face in front of them (even if you want to storm into PSD and smack someone.. which you will.. at least once... lol) then they will assume its normal.

Nursing is very transportable. My mother in law is a Navy wife of 34 years and was a nurse during it. She took off when the kids were young by choice, but there is always a demand. Even if you couldn't get a job at a Naval hospital there is always someone needing nurses around. The benefit at a Naval hospital is that you're working for the government and so you can just get transferred when you move.

I know many wives that have gone back to school. It's not impossible at all. You just have to keep in mind timeframes and how long he'll be there for. If you'll be in a duty station say from May 2010-Dec 2012 (typically you'll be on a "sea" duty for 2-3 years, a shore duty for 2) then think about school schedules. If your schooling starts August 2010 and is a 2 year program, you might have to stay behind for that spring semester to finish. Or pick a program that will allow you to transfer to another school for the last semester. Just make sure to plan it out and be prepared for changes.

The thing she always told me - its a hard life, but its a good life. And she wouldn't take it back if she could. She never once asked him to get out for her benefit, and looking back wouldn't change a thing. The friends she has now are closer than any civilian friends I've ever known.

Post by KMK » Sat Mar 21, 2009 8:21 pm

1. Do you enjoy the military life?
2. Is it realistic to think that i could get hired at naval hospitals if we were to get married? like as a contracted worker?
3. Is it hard raising a family with the military lifestyle? like do your kids get sad when they have to move and leave their friends? Do you??
4. It is my dream to become a nurse anesthetist. is it foolish to think that i could go back to school if we move all the time?

To all your questions there's a yes, no and maybe so answer. But i can say this you'll be OK. As for school it is always possible and in some/most cases you might be stationed one place for 2-3 years at a time. Military life has it's ups and downs just like the civilian life. Yes the kids get sad for a while but like my son his social skills are exceptional so he makes new ones and quickly forget about being sad. Every wife and family handles it differently but i can also say this there are plenty of support channels for whatever issues the servicemember and family member is facing. Plenty of military wives have a job/career and i think with your field it is a portable and always in demand field. Just say YES when he asks and come join us. You'll be OK

I desperately need an inside opinion.....

Post by krause1287 » Sat Mar 21, 2009 7:53 pm

ok so I really need so help...i have been with my SO for over a year now and i know its getting to be around that time for the big "will you marry me?" bc he hints at it all the time. Ever since we started our relationship i have constantly wondered if the military life is for me. My dad was USCG but he was a higher ranked officer and so we didnt really move around alot. My SO has already gone through the whole officer school and is a LT. so thats the back story. basically after reading some stuff on here and getting lost in the lingo i am overwhelmed with the idea of possibly having to start a whole new way of living. i have been out of nursing school for a while and am an RN in mobile AL and my SO lives in pensacola FL which is like an hour and a half away. so now that you know a little about me and my situation here goes the questions.
1. Do you enjoy the military life?
2. Is it realistic to think that i could get hired at naval hospitals if we were to get married? like as a contracted worker?
3. Is it hard raising a family with the military lifestyle? like do your kids get sad when they have to move and leave their friends? Do you??
4. It is my dream to become a nurse anesthetist. is it foolish to think that i could go back to school if we move all the time?

reading my own post i feel like i may just not be ready for marriage. but maybe some answers and opinions will help me get there.

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